Now that I’m dead, I want to tell you a few things. Life is so short. If only I could have let go of the criticism and the rules that were so harshly enforced upon me. I believe in the commandments of God but so many of society’s rules have nothing to do with truth–only with control. Mid-life I found someone who loved and accepted me the way that I was. I don’t think it’s important for someone to like all of your parts and aspects of your personality, but it is so important to have someone who supports and shares your dreams. It’s important to have someone who knows how to “manage” you. There are those will do their best to ignite your anger and those types are dangerous. It took me years to understand who was manipulating me, who was pushing my buttons. We all have control over our selves and we try to be independent. No man is an island, so surround yourself with people or even just a person who sees your vision.

Really, what does it matter what people think? Be yourself. Treat others with love and dignity and it won’t matter how you are dressed. Stay humble and honest. This life is a battle. There are so many forces pushing on each one of us… to do good… is the ultimate. Hate sends forth a negative vibe constantly and wants to defeat us. We must stand strong for goodness. Listen to your inner voice–be in tune with yourself.

Be good to children and the elderly. Be tender with a heart for living things.

Don’t settle for less. Don’t settle for a friend or lover that is not worthy of you.

The most important thing that I can tell you is: you should follow your dream. It will not be easy. It will be the most difficult thing that you ever do. Many people, probably including your family, will pressure you to do otherwise. Remember, life is so very short. Get to work, you don’t have much time.

Jennifer Kosharek